Wednesday, July 22, 2009

The Controversy

So there's this notion floating around out there that it's a bad thing to put your relationship with your significant other ahead of your relationship with your child. I am not one of those people that subscribe to that notion. I think it is IMPERATIVE that my relationship with my daughter's father be stronger than anything else in this world - aside from my relationship with God. If we (her father and I) are on the same page, moving to the same rhythm, we will present a strong united front for my daughter, and a strong united front for US. We have that confidence that we can make it through the storms because of our mutual respect, love, and trust.

BUT.....

What happens when your significant other makes decisions in private that put your family at risk publicly? Is there enough trust in your relationship bank to get you through something that has made question not only the man you love, but your own common sense? What happens in that relationship when your left feeling foolish, betrayed, and hurt - all at the same time. Your relationship is thrown into a dizzying spiral of what?? Do you stay or do you go?? Does the love change? If so, does that change make you stronger or is it the beginning of the end? Or do you stick to the notion that your relationship with each other needs to forsake all others....

Therein lies the controversy...

2 comments:

Fishbowl said...

Great blog, now have read 3 comments which I gotta say is a record for one new blog. I think the relationship with ourselves is the most important (god not included, still working on that one). Until I know how I feel about something myself, then I can figure out what to do with someone else and my relationship to them...I wish you lots of luck.

SupahMommy said...

let me know if you ever found out..

stupid men.

 
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